How to use Romantic Relationships for Spiritual Growth

Copyright © Dr Joshua David Stone & Gloria Excelsias


     There is probably no quicker way to grow Spiritually than being in a romantic relationship. Why? Because romantic relationships are fantastic teachers, they bring everything to the surface!

     Our romantic partners hold up a mirror for us of issues that we have not cleared and learned within ourselves. And, so intimate relationships provide wonderful learning opportunities for both partners involved.

     The key is to love and commit totally to a relationship and to not half-commit. And when the time comes and the relationship comes to an end, to let go of it, to thank your partner for the time and learning together, and move on. If it is meant to be, there will be a new romantic relationship waiting for you.

     The most important thing to remember is to not leave a relationship before all lessons are learned. In this day and age of quick partner change, many people part on the slightest disagreement. They don’t understand that romantic relationships are catalysts for Spiritual growth. And so many times, people leave relationships before the natural Tao for separation has come. And sure enough, they soon find themselves in another relationship facing the exact same lessons as they did in the relationship they just ended. Why? Because as long as we don’t learn our lessons, the universe keeps bringing them back to us until we do learn them. Once we learn our lessons, we are forever freed and can move on.

     The Integrated Ascended Master always strives for Spiritual growth in all his relationships. He fully commits to his romantic partner and looks at every interaction as an opportunity to demonstrate unconditional love and Christ Consciousness.

It is Neither Normal Nor Necessary to have Negative Feelings and Emotions

     Contrary to popular opinion it is neither normal nor necessary to have negative feelings and emotions. All negative feelings and emotions come from negative thinking and wrong points of view. Period!

     It is our thoughts and interpretation that create our feelings and emotions.

     Negative ego, fear-based, separative, dualistic, illusionary, selfish, lower-self thoughts create negative ego, fear-based, separative, dualistic, illusionary, selfish, lower-self feelings and emotions.

     And Spiritual, loving, transcendent, selfless, oneness and truth-based Higher Self thoughts create Spiritual, loving, transcendent, selfless, oneness and truth-based Higher Self feelings and emotions.

     So if you don’t like the way you feel, you need to change the way you think!

     The way to work with negative feelings and emotions is to look at them as signs that our thinking is out of alignment with Spirit. So when you don’t feel good, Spirit is telling you that you are thinking with your negative ego, fear-based mind. And in that sense, negative feelings and emotions can be used to propel us forward on our Spiritual path.

     The Integrated Ascended Master is fully aware of this and “chooses once again” whenever the need arises. So when he does not feel good, he chooses a new loving thought to replace the fear-based thought that created the negative feeling in the first place. This is called attitudinal healing. And what is so great about it is that it works instantly. Try it and see for yourself! All it takes to switch from a bad mood to a good one is one happy thought!

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