by Cathy Chapman, PhD
HOUSTON, TX--Have you ever felt someone looking at you and couldn’t find anyone around? Kind of freaky, isn’t it?
A man was browsing in an antique shop when he kept feeling as though he was being watched and the only other person in the shop was the owner who wasn’t near him. Chills ran up and down his spine. Finally he pointed a camera at the empty space where he felt someone was watching him, and snapped this photo. Look what he captured.
No, it wasn’t Photoshopped or any other “shopped.” It was taken with a simple cell phone.
So, who is this in the photo?
I really don’t know, but the photo is so clear I’m sure someone who knows her could recognize her.
The customer who snapped the photo alerted the shop owner Lisa, who gave me a call. “Do you remember me? I need your help, please!”
Since the store is open 6 days a week, I spent some time with her Father’s Day morning.
Before I go into what happened, let me share some information about people who are “lost.” These are folks who, when their body dies, their soul, that part that makes them who they are, hangs around.
Some of the most common reasons they don’t cross over are:
Not Knowing They’re Dead and Sudden Death
How could anyone possibly not realize she or he is dead? If I was sitting with you, chatting, and then suddenly keeled over dead, you would know instantly something was wrong. I, however, would not. I just step out of my body. I might be confused and wonder why you were so upset, but things wouldn’t seem that different to me.
This happens with sudden death. There is no time to know you are getting ready to leave your body. You just leave. The experience is so dramatic for those watching, but not necessarily for those who have left.
Yes, you hear reports from those who have had near death experiences, but the majority of people who clinically died don’t report the tunnel and white light.
Evidently, because there are so many souls wandering this earth after their physical body dies, not everyone sees “the light beckoning them home” … as I like to call it.
My experience with those who are unaware they no longer have bodies, have often been filled with a conversation attempting to “prove” to them they no longer have bodies. In my office, I keep a small mirror handy. I show the being my reflection and then have them notice they don’t have a reflection.
Sometimes, if the soul has no connection to the person or place they’re attached to, they will leave instantaneously. Other times I need to direct the soul to look in a particular direction where I sense the light … or someone who is waiting for them.
When the soul continues his or her reluctance to leave, I ask Spirit for someone who knows him or her to come as an escort.
Many people will proclaim that taking your own life is always wrong. Is it?
My experience, limited to what I know and experience in my body, has shown otherwise.
There are two reasons for suicide:
As in so many cases, intent is crucial.
The earthbound souls of those who commit suicide are usually the ones who made a choice to leave due to emotional pain and suffering. They didn’t want to confront their failures and work through them. Many times they couldn’t face their families because of something they did—lost a business or had infractions become public—that brought them personal shame.
Then there are those who take their lives, not as a reaction to personal shame or refusal to face what they have done, but to end a life that is filled with physical pain in which there is no hope of relief. These are frequently the elderly or terminally ill whose lives would have ended “naturally” 100 years ago before the advances in “modern” medicine.
Those who commit suicide due to emotional pain or lack of courage are often earthbound. The very reason that caused them to end their life is the one that keeps them anchored to the earth. The problem is that they are still in pain and still in need of healing. They are even more lost now than they were in the physical.
It doesn’t seem to matter what the soul was addicted to—substances, a person, sex, work—addiction can keep a soul earthbound.
In addiction, life is focused on one “thing.” When the body dies the mind is still focused on the substance. One of the reason drug and alcohol addicts have such a tough time kicking their addiction is due to addicted earthbound spirits who experience the high by being in the aura of the “living” addict. The earthbound addicts are continually saying, “Use … drink.” This is part of the mental craving for the substance.
When someone passes on with deep regret s/he can remain earthbound. The soul finds it difficult to leave without being able to bring closure to something or someone in their lives.
Fear of Hell
There are those who leave their bodies, know they are dead and are scared out of their minds. They know they did some terrible things. They don’t want to go on because they are terrified of eternal damnation.
Releasing an Earthbound Soul
I met Lisa at the store. She didn’t want to go in alone and was waiting for me out front. As we went through the store she told me her story.
I didn’t sense anyone on the bottom floor.
We moved upstairs to where the picture was taken. No one, physical or spirit, was in the room where the photo was taken.
We then went into a small office. There was definitely a presence there.
So what do you do when you meet a spirit in a room? What do you do when you find yourself in a room with a stranger who has a body? You chat about the weather, the sports team or how slow the elevator is.
When chatting with a spirit the small talk is different—ask their name, if they know they’re dead, why they’re hanging around—that kind of thing.
I introduced myself and my friend and asked the name of the spirit. Things were immediately complicated because I received numerous answers. This can happen when more than one spirit is present … and there were about 10 present for this event.
The room became very cold. It’s amazing how there is often a temperature drop. As spirits would leave the room became warmer … as they “spoke” to me the temperature dropped.
Although there were around 10 spirits present, I’m going to focus on just a few.
The teenage girl or young woman I talked to was named Melissa or Melody. I couldn’t hear the name clearly … as is often the case. She was definitely lost. Yes, she knew she was dead.
By the way, when I asked “Do you know that your body is dead?” most of the spirits said “yes.” One, however, became very afraid and was practically yelling, “What do you mean I’m dead?” It took some time to convince this woman her body was no longer with her.
The next question I usually ask is, “Why are you still here?” She was looking for someone. She wouldn’t tell me how she died, but I received a strong impression she was doing something she shouldn’t have and that she now regretted.
How can I be sure my impression was correct? When I work with physically living clients in my energy based psychotherapy practice, I am tapped into their energy and receive impressions. Working with spirit is no different.
The Man in the Back of the Room
At times there are spirits who observe what is happening. They don’t come in with the group, but I can feel their presence. This man was in his mid to late 60s and he was standing in the back … and watching and listening. At first he didn’t say much, but he was intent. Suddenly he was in my face, literally. I felt his energy within inches of my face yelling at me.
He wanted to know who I was and what I was doing there. My impression was that he considered himself the protector of all those in the room. With much verbal force I told him to “Back off” several times. He did move away and I told everyone what who I was and what I was going to do.
He stood in the back of the room watching.
The Little Boy and His Pets
This little fellow, about four years old, was standing in front of me. Children often rush right up to me. He had his puppies and their toys. He had no idea where his family was or what had happened. He started crying when I asked where his mommy was. He did tell me it was really quiet in the store when all the dogs went home.
His sister was with him. She was filled with guilt because she had been angry when she had to take her little brother somewhere. The accident occurred when she was switching channels on the radio.
When I have the spirit of a child I ask if there are loved ones who have crossed over available to come take this child home. In this case there were grandparents. I asked them to come. The little boy saw them, and with a cry of joy—ran into their arms. His older sister also brightened up and went to them.
I called him back and asked him to take his puppies, which he did very quickly. Interestingly, when I thought he was gone, and I was talking to someone else, he suddenly dashed in front of me, grabbed something (a toy I think) and dashed out again.
The room was warmer.
A General Invitation to Go to the Light
Once I establish contact with a group of spirits, I talk about how life continues after the body is died. I give them my concept of “going home” and how there is only Love to greet them. There is also the explanation of my beliefs of a place of healing. No one will have to carry the feelings of pain, loss, regret and so on that they now carry.
By that time I can sense an area of light and point this out to them. Often there are spirits waiting for them beckoning them to come. Many left at this time. Some said “Thank you” and others left without a word. They saw what was before them and they were no longer focused on the physical.
The Man in the Back
This man did not give me information. There was no more anger or other low vibration energy in him once he was comfortable I was not going to hurt anyone. He had never believed in an afterlife. He thought that when his body died, he was finished. That fact that life went on was a surprise to him. Eventually his wife came. I can almost imagine her saying, “I told you so."
An Altered State and What I Remember
When I’m doing this work I’m in an altered state. I wish I had sat down immediately and written out what happened … but it was time to celebrate Father’s Day with my dad and siblings.
I remember most the feelings I had, the drastic change in temperature several times during the session, the playfulness of the little boy … oh, and I just remembered … the little boy asked me if I had a dog. I told him how I was sad because my dog had died several months ago … and then she (my dog) makes a brief appearance. He laughed with delight and I had tears in my eyes.
The teenager or young woman who started all this was so very sad. I tried to find out what happened to her. All I know is that she was doing something “very bad” and was unwilling to talk about it. She had decided she wanted things to change. It was she that took matters into her own hands to find a way to get some help.
There was a man there who was frightened. He was driving drunk when he died. After some reassurance he went into the light.
They All Appeared to Leave
When I think everyone’s gone I’ll ask, “Is there anyone else here?” That seems like a simple question, but it is a trick question. In this case I heard, “No.” Of course, if no one else was there, no one would have answered. After some cajoling I talked to a man who was “scared to death” he was going to hell. He said he deserved it because he had killed someone, but he didn’t’ want to go to hell. Amazingly, the man who he killed came to him and forgave him. The two of them went into the light.
There are little bits and pieces of information that come to me as I recall what happened. First, there was no darkness present. These spirits were just a group of different individuals who had formed their own community. They were lost, confused and didn’t know where to go.
The man who was the observer was the first spirit in the place. The store had once been an antique store. He followed a piece of furniture that had been precious to his wife. I don’t know why he stayed in the space rather than going with the furniture, but stay he did.
He was a compassionate man and, when he came across other wandering souls, he invited them to stay with him. They formed their own little family.
A Fun Story to Finish
When Lisa called me with news of the photo, she told me her employee was sure that the girl in the photo had pushed him down the steps. Shyly the little boy told me that he was the one who did that. He didn’t mean any harm. He jumped on her employee’s back to play horsey like he used to play with his dad. He was sorry.
Several days later Lisa called, “Do you think it’s possible the little boy took my dog’s favorite toy? It’s missing and we have looked everywhere for it.”
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